Friday, 25 September 2015
Saw this interesting article online and decided to share. Corina Dondas of All Women Stalk says “If you find yourself falling uncontrollably in love with the wrong individual over and over again, you should know that there are a few things you can do to prevent that from happening.
” Falling in love with the wrong person can cause you a lot of untold pain you wouldn’t wish on your enemy, so it’s better to tread carefully and keep your thoughts together. Here are a few very helpful
tips on how to stop yourself from falling in love that you should consider:
1.Don’t be a stalker: If you want to forget a certain person, then avoid being a stalker. Don’t check their Facebook page every hour to see if they have been up to something. Just keep in mind that the more obsessed you become with that #person, the harder it will be for you to stay away from them. Worse, the part they play in your life will be even bigger.
2.Don’t get too friendly: If you want to avoid falling in love with someone who you know is not good for you, then try to avoid getting too friendly.
Try to avoid late night texts or calls where both of you share intimate details about each other’s lives; basically, avoid having long conversations with them because you are not getting friendlier with them, you are just falling deeper in love with them. Consider their flaws: None of us is perfect and we all have flaws, so that person that you have a #crush on has a bad side too. If you want to avoid falling in love with them, then try to focus on their flaws or on the #things they did or said that hurt your feelings. You could even make a list of all the reasons you should avoid falling in love with them since it will remind you why they are not a good match for you.
3.Distance yourself from them: This can be a bit hard to do, especially if that person is one of your co-workers and you have to see each other every day, but nothing is impossible if you really want to achieve something. Try to avoid interacting with them and keep your distance from them, since this will help you get over your #crush more quickly. Avoid the attention: Even if all that attention that you get can feel so good and flattering, try to avoid it, especially if you are in a long-lasting, committed #relationship. Try to reconnect with your #partner and focus on the beautiful thing that you share with your significant other.
4.Realize the difference: There is a huge different between falling in love with someone and being attracted to them. We can be attracted to a lot of #people, but that doesn’t mean that we would like to be in a relationship with them. Just because you think that someone is attractive, smart and interesting that doesn’t mean that you love them.
As I contemplate the Nigerian condition or non-condition, I continue to marvel at contemporary happenings. The nirvana is certainly not here yet. Still, it is possible to discern new ozone in public life.
Suddenly, public officials are more responsive. The refineries appear to be working. Petrol queues, for now at least, are gone. Electricity supply seems to have improved. And therefore one is tempted to ask: What has happened? Have we really had any novel policy thrusts since Muhammadu Buhari assumed the Presidency of the country?
As a student of public affairs, it is possible to answer this question in the negative. Yet, there is a new ozone in public life.
It does not take much to appreciate that, what has happened so far is that the President’s reputation and sheer force of personal example have probably struck the fear of God in people who run our institutions.
The upshot is that a novel and positive lease of life seems to pervade the land One striking instance here is President Muhammadu Buhari’s recent public declaration of his assets. As we all know by now, these assets are now in the public space.
And if those details are true, then what has been declared should sear the conscience of all past and present public officers, particularly at the highest of levels. Here is a man, who has been in control of vast resources as a military governor, minister of petroleum and a former Head of State. Yet, all that he could claim to own are houses and lands in places like Port Harcourt, Kaduna and Abuja as well as N30n in his bank account.
To be sure, by the general Nigerian standards, Buhari is not a poor man. But by the jaded and conscienceless standards of his peers, he certainly comes up short-at least in materialistic terms. Some people with warped values are even likely to snigger and ask: Is this the entire worth of this man? Probably yes. But on the platform of morality, very few of his peers can really hold up the candle to him. And this is partly why, I have dared to state here that, Buhari is not a Nigerian. If he was the typical Nigerian in public life, he would be in possession of trillions, cash wise and non-cash equivalents in other areas like properties and jets ownership.
Even then, the declaration in itself has sparked off implicit and explicit comparisons, which seem to indicate that this man stands out. Indeed, some people with a dark sense of humour or out of sheer wonder and concern have pointed out that the average local government chairman in Nigeria (where else?) is richer than Buhari. And of course and as we all know, this may well be true. But, what is perhaps much more revealing especially in these times is that other public officials are refusing to be drawn into the ring of public asset declaration.
Take our elected governors for instance. Either out of ignorance or mischief, they are saying that there are no statutory provisions which require them to do so. Very much the same bankrupt postures can be observed on the part of the senators and members of the House of Representatives who, by the way, are supposed to be distinguished and honourable.
Meanwhile, and as revealed in newspaper reports, Buhari appears to be exasperated by the fact that, despite his attempts to come clean with what he owns, he appears to have opened up another round of controversy on this issue. In a sense, this is only to be expected.
Vultures as they are wont, have to feed on something. Which is why, the General’s contentions are very instructive. According to him, in the course of his public life, he has declared his assets four times since 1974. At the risk of being contradicted, I do not think that any Head of State or public official has come forth in this way.
However, for the records, as well as balance, it is relevant to state here that in the recent past, former President Umaru Yar’Adua, and his then deputy, Goodluck Jonathan, respectively declared their assets. But when the latter mounted the saddle as the point-man of our system, and the self-same issue came up, he pointedly and memorably remarked: I do not give a damn! Which is just as well. For in a rather Freudian and self-indicting way, Jonathan was known to declare in another context that some of our leaders behave like motor park touts!
But even then, before I am done, since Buhari has bitten the bullet, it may be useful for other public officials to do the same. I am referring here to governors, ministers, and the invisible army of invincible permanent secretaries. And to President Buhari, he should take heart. After all, my ancestral folk, in their eternal wisdom, have always said that if you indict someone for cooking a bad soup, what will you do to the person who has cooked none?
Last line: I am sure that the hidden dimensions of Buhari’s assets would have been exposed by now if such information was available.
Peter Okoye took to his instagram page to defend his friend and business partner Kaffy after some of her followers trash talked her for releasing sexy photos online. Like being married is being in prison.
A new born baby with his umbilical cord still attached was found along Dibue road, Ikot Ekpene in Aka Ibom State this afternoon. A lady after delivering this baby, put her in a polythene bag and dumped her by the road side. An eye witness told LIB that he saw a lady in that area this afternoon but didn't know what she'd left behind until she'd gone. The baby was already dead before people noticed what was in the bag. The photos are painful to look at. If you have the stomach, see them after the cut...
Beautiful piece by Olusola Adio, that perfectly answers the question. Read and let’s know if you agree with him.
I have asserted before that most men in the flesh process love through their waist & women process love through their emotions. We mentioned previously that the number 1 reason for infidelity in men is sex. It’s the strongest soul tie for men.
So by this rule, you reach a man in the flesh very quickly through sex or anything visual that suggests sex. Porn, nudes etc.he quickest way to reach a woman is through her feelings, thoughts & cravings cos women process love through their emotions.