Wana Udobang or Wana Wana joined the Inspiration FM Family in February 2009. Wana anchors popular segments on the afternoon drive from 4:30pm - 8pm like The Birthday Show, Safe Wheels Driving Tips, and Sharing Life Issues.
Saw this interesting article online and decided to share. Corina Dondas of All Women Stalk says “If you find yourself falling uncontrollably in love with the wrong individual over and over again, you should know that there are a few things you can do to prevent that from happening.
” Falling in love with the wrong person can cause you a lot of untold pain you wouldn’t wish on your enemy, so it’s better to tread carefully and keep your thoughts together. Here are a few very helpful
tips on how to stop yourself from falling in love that you should consider:
1.Don’t be a stalker: If you want to forget a certain person, then avoid being a stalker. Don’t check their Facebook page every hour to see if they have been up to something. Just keep in mind that the more obsessed you become with that #person, the harder it will be for you to stay away from them. Worse, the part they play in your life will be even bigger.
2.Don’t get too friendly: If you want to avoid falling in love with someone who you know is not good for you, then try to avoid getting too friendly.
Try to avoid late night texts or calls where both of you share intimate details about each other’s lives; basically, avoid having long conversations with them because you are not getting friendlier with them, you are just falling deeper in love with them. Consider their flaws: None of us is perfect and we all have flaws, so that person that you have a #crush on has a bad side too. If you want to avoid falling in love with them, then try to focus on their flaws or on the #things they did or said that hurt your feelings. You could even make a list of all the reasons you should avoid falling in love with them since it will remind you why they are not a good match for you.
3.Distance yourself from them: This can be a bit hard to do, especially if that person is one of your co-workers and you have to see each other every day, but nothing is impossible if you really want to achieve something. Try to avoid interacting with them and keep your distance from them, since this will help you get over your #crush more quickly. Avoid the attention: Even if all that attention that you get can feel so good and flattering, try to avoid it, especially if you are in a long-lasting, committed #relationship. Try to reconnect with your #partner and focus on the beautiful thing that you share with your significant other.
4.Realize the difference: There is a huge different between falling in love with someone and being attracted to them. We can be attracted to a lot of #people, but that doesn’t mean that we would like to be in a relationship with them. Just because you think that someone is attractive, smart and interesting that doesn’t mean that you love them.
Speaking during evening prayers at St. Patrick's Cathedral New York, Pope Francis told the excited Nuns that he loves them. "What would the Church be without you? Women of strength, fighters, with that spirit of courage which puts you on the front lines in the proclamation of the Gospel. To you, religious women, sisters and mothers of this people, I wish to say 'thank you,' a big thank you... and to tell you that I love you very much."he said. More photos after the cut...
As I contemplate the Nigerian condition or non-condition, I continue to marvel at contemporary happenings. The nirvana is certainly not here yet. Still, it is possible to discern new ozone in public life. Suddenly, public officials are more responsive. The refineries appear to be working. Petrol queues, for now at least, are gone. Electricity supply seems to have improved. And therefore one is tempted to ask: What has happened? Have we really had any novel policy thrusts since Muhammadu Buhari assumed the Presidency of the country? As a student of public affairs, it is possible to answer this question in the negative. Yet, there is a new ozone in public life.
It does not take much to appreciate that, what has happened so far is that the President’s reputation and sheer force of personal example have probably struck the fear of God in people who run our institutions. The upshot is that a novel and positive lease of life seems to pervade the land One striking instance here is President Muhammadu Buhari’s recent public declaration of his assets. As we all know by now, these assets are now in the public space.
And if those details are true, then what has been declared should sear the conscience of all past and present public officers, particularly at the highest of levels. Here is a man, who has been in control of vast resources as a military governor, minister of petroleum and a former Head of State. Yet, all that he could claim to own are houses and lands in places like Port Harcourt, Kaduna and Abuja as well as N30n in his bank account. To be sure, by the general Nigerian standards, Buhari is not a poor man. But by the jaded and conscienceless standards of his peers, he certainly comes up short-at least in materialistic terms. Some people with warped values are even likely to snigger and ask: Is this the entire worth of this man? Probably yes. But on the platform of morality, very few of his peers can really hold up the candle to him. And this is partly why, I have dared to state here that, Buhari is not a Nigerian. If he was the typical Nigerian in public life, he would be in possession of trillions, cash wise and non-cash equivalents in other areas like properties and jets ownership.
Even then, the declaration in itself has sparked off implicit and explicit comparisons, which seem to indicate that this man stands out. Indeed, some people with a dark sense of humour or out of sheer wonder and concern have pointed out that the average local government chairman in Nigeria (where else?) is richer than Buhari. And of course and as we all know, this may well be true. But, what is perhaps much more revealing especially in these times is that other public officials are refusing to be drawn into the ring of public asset declaration. Take our elected governors for instance. Either out of ignorance or mischief, they are saying that there are no statutory provisions which require them to do so. Very much the same bankrupt postures can be observed on the part of the senators and members of the House of Representatives who, by the way, are supposed to be distinguished and honourable.
Meanwhile, and as revealed in newspaper reports, Buhari appears to be exasperated by the fact that, despite his attempts to come clean with what he owns, he appears to have opened up another round of controversy on this issue. In a sense, this is only to be expected. Vultures as they are wont, have to feed on something. Which is why, the General’s contentions are very instructive. According to him, in the course of his public life, he has declared his assets four times since 1974. At the risk of being contradicted, I do not think that any Head of State or public official has come forth in this way.
However, for the records, as well as balance, it is relevant to state here that in the recent past, former President Umaru Yar’Adua, and his then deputy, Goodluck Jonathan, respectively declared their assets. But when the latter mounted the saddle as the point-man of our system, and the self-same issue came up, he pointedly and memorably remarked: I do not give a damn! Which is just as well. For in a rather Freudian and self-indicting way, Jonathan was known to declare in another context that some of our leaders behave like motor park touts!
But even then, before I am done, since Buhari has bitten the bullet, it may be useful for other public officials to do the same. I am referring here to governors, ministers, and the invisible army of invincible permanent secretaries. And to President Buhari, he should take heart. After all, my ancestral folk, in their eternal wisdom, have always said that if you indict someone for cooking a bad soup, what will you do to the person who has cooked none? Last line: I am sure that the hidden dimensions of Buhari’s assets would have been exposed by now if such information was available.
Serena Williams joined other stars including Patti Smith, Amy Schumer, Yoko Ono, and others for the 2016 Pirelli Calender shot by renowned photographer Annie Leibovitz...
Peter Okoye took to his instagram page to defend his friend and business partner Kaffy after some of her followers trash talked her for releasing sexy photos online. Like being married is being in prison.
A new born baby with his umbilical cord still attached was found along Dibue road, Ikot Ekpene in Aka Ibom State this afternoon. A lady after delivering this baby, put her in a polythene bag and dumped her by the road side. An eye witness told LIB that he saw a lady in that area this afternoon but didn't know what she'd left behind until she'd gone. The baby was already dead before people noticed what was in the bag. The photos are painful to look at. If you have the stomach, see them after the cut...
President Buhari pictured above seated at the UN General Assembly in New York today. Seated with him is former Ekiti state governor, Kayode Fayemi and Nigerian Permanent Representative to the United Nations, Prof Joy Ogwu.
Beautiful piece by Olusola Adio, that perfectly answers the question. Read and let’s know if you agree with him.
I have asserted before that most men in the flesh process love through their waist & women process love through their emotions. We mentioned previously that the number 1 reason for infidelity in men is sex. It’s the strongest soul tie for men. So by this rule, you reach a man in the flesh very quickly through sex or anything visual that suggests sex. Porn, nudes etc.he quickest way to reach a woman is through her feelings, thoughts & cravings cos women process love through their emotions.
Why is it worth discussing?
a) Cos it’s a soul tie and it will abort the manifestation of God’s will in her life.
It will cause the woman to give up her body to a man in fornication or adultery if this soul tie happens outside marriage. Most balanced women don’t have sex as their number 1 priority like men do. Men will kill & rape but women hardly ever do.
However, a study conducted on baby Mommas revealed 75% of them saying they only tolerated the sex to get a touch. They said they wanted a touch but fleshly men hardly ever touch you emotionally without a hope for some sexual gratification.
This is the touch that Paul spoke of in 1 Cor 7:1. It’s not only physical but it’s also emotional.
1st reason why a woman would cheat is when her emotional tank goes empty while still in a valid relationship or marriage.
In the garden of Eden, the serpent came along to hold a conversation with Eve. No record of Adam ever saying anything. Some bible scholars believed that Adam had gone off into some other part of the garden and couldn’t listen in. Some others believed that Adam was listening nearby but didn’t contribute and just came along to eat the fruit as well.
Whichever school of thought you belong to, Adam was either silent or absent, while satan messed with Eve’s soul. I want to believe that if Adam and Eve spoke long enough, there’ll be hardly room enough for satan to operate.
I also believe that if Eve guarded the loins of her mind with God’s commandment, she wouldn’t have negotiated it with satan. 2 things opened the door, lack of engagement with God’s Word and missing/absent/silent man.
This hasn’t changed over the centuries. Missing/silent fathers mostly produce emotionally vulnerable daughters. Missing/silent/absent husbands render their wives emotionally vulnerable outside the house.
It’s even worse when these women are not serious Christians so their minds cannot be guarded by God’s Word. The ultimate tool for guarding your mind, emotions and body from sin is God’s Word. Ps 119:9 & Ps 119:11. I have seen a few real life cases and I found that their husbands were either absent or silent or missing.
It’s the major reason for flings and affairs in the workplace. An emotionally vulnerable woman is always there.
A husband can be physically present at home and emotionally missing from his wife’s heart. It’s the reason why long distance relationships were not just for me when I was a lot younger. I’m not knocking them but if you can handle them, thumbs up for you.
I know a man who went to US with a view of getting his wife & 2 kids to join when he settles down. There were no emails then and letters took weeks to reach Nigeria from US. Also, he hardly wrote. A few years later, he was back for them. He only just discovered that she had remarried and taken the kids along.Hardworking men who work daily from dawn to dusk and are always missing from their wives run this risk.
Most men think that if the money area is sorted then their marriages are fully sorted. U are in for a shock! Most cheating wives actually have wealthy husbands who are hardly ever present. Read Prov 7:1-end for another scriptural proof of my assertion. The strange woman there was not our much maligned single lady. She was a woman married to a rich businessman. Technically, she was cheating from within a marriage.
Two reasons for her silly behavior:
One: her husband was absent. Two: she was actually a demon worshipper who raised money for demons. A lady once said all she wants is a husband who listens, so if you marry her & u don’t listen, ur marriage may suffer badly.
Married women also stylishly cheat using the popular vehicle of platonic relationships. They say: A platonic relationship is pure affection, subsisting between persons of opposite sex, unmixed wit carnal desires. I don’t dispute that definition. However, do platonic relationships always remain platonic?
Do they always remain platonic when the woman has been starved of emotional warmth in her marriage?
Do they always remain platonic when a serial male predator is the other participant? You answer that for yourselves and let’s move on quickly.
Another reason why women cheatis financial consideration.This comes at 2 levels. Level 1 is overt prostitution. Married women have been known to sneak out of home to work in brothels. Why? Can only be for money. The strange woman in Prov 7:1-end actually worked as a prostitute and she was married. She set herself up on Allen Avenue at night as a prostitute.
Before we all judge people on level 1, let’s look at level 2 very quickly. Level 2 is covert prostitution. This is done by a lot more women stylishly. There are married women who exchange sexual favours and emotional liaisons with men for financial reasons.
Let’s look at the blackberry girls in Nigeria as a classic example. They openly said on YouTube that they had boyfriends to finance their flashy lifestyles. Fast-forward 5 years and God forbid that you married one of them and there is a brief dip in your finances. She’ll go hunting for those guys again for a cash injection with strings attached to meet the shortfall.
I worked as a consultant for a bank in Lagos at a high-level so I had to sit with this branch manager all day. He was single. There was a daily stream of ladies who besieged his office on cash-for-sex visits. Sadly, a sizeable proportion of those women were married whose husbands were even known to him.
A Nigerian politician used to be well known, when I was a kid, for snatching other peoples wives. He didn’t really look great to me i.e. 6-packs etc. The only reason those married women defected was his cash.
This money reason for female cheating is definitely a significant risk in Nigeria that eligible men need to be aware of.
There’s a third reason why women cheat.—> Sex. People that marry spouses just for sexual reasons hardly realise that beauty and strength will both fade & wane over time.
The 29 year old man you married last week won’t be the same person when he turns 50. I have seen an awful mix of over-60 women allegedly finding love with some mid-20 geezers. But why why? *in Ghanaian accent*
I have seen elderly European women marrying 25 year old Nigerians & I just wondered why until … I leave you to figure the rest of that out. Y’all very sharp. Innit?
Lesson for men –> Never go missing or absent from your wife’s or daughter’s emotional lives.You leave them exposed to the enemy.
Lesson for women.When you feel yourself begin to drift, cry out to your husband instead of going outside for emotional solace.
Lesson for us all = We need to guard the loins of our minds with God’s Word to live far from these. Ps. 119:9,11
Just in case you didn’t figure the last one out. Reason why some women cheat is that they crave more viable sexual partners. #SoulTies
Popular comedienne, Bose Ogunboye, aka Lepacious Bose, was not in the mood for jokes on Thursday when she took a measured swipe at the Nigerian youth for being obsessed with gossip and rumour-peddling.
. Posting on her Instagram page, the comedienne blasted the youth, especially the female sex, for preferring the content of blogs and other social media platforms that thrive largely on gossip about the life styles of celebrities over novels and other literature that elevate the mind.
Making a case for the lack of healthy reading culture among younger Nigerians, she wrote, “When I was a teenager, every girl of my age read novels. In fact, we often engaged in a competition to know the fastest reader among us and how many novels that each person read. We could read anywhere we chose; in a bus, in the toilet and at mealtimes.
“Nowadays, I meet a lot of girls on the way, but I have never seen them reading a book. They don’t even hold novels in their hands, at least to show off or in pretence. Instead, they are always glued to social media. They know who is dating who and who is wearing what. Many of them do not even know the names of the governors of their states, but they know the name of Kanye West’s mum.”
Also, lamenting the fact that many youths had embraced the path of ignorance, she continued, “They do not know the capital of Kaduna State, but they know Kim Kardashian’s home address, even the colour of the paint on the wall of her toilet. Ask them what is happening in Syria, they cannot tell you because they don’t know. But they know that Jay Z and Beyonce had a fight this morning and why.
“In fact, they know the details of Emeka Ike’s divorce more than the actor and his wife do. If you ask them which state in Nigeria is preparing for an election right now, they don’t know. But they can tell you about Tiwa Savage’s whereabouts, what she is wearing and even what she ate for dinner.”
Admitting that her own generation had failed to live up to the expectation of the society, Bose wondered what would become of the next generation of Nigerians. “Our generation is not living up to expectation, I know. But what happens to the next generation that will take over from us? They are a disaster waiting to happen. Yet, I quote Asa, who said, ‘Who is responsible for what we teach our children? Is it the Internet or the stars on television?’ So sad.”
Responding to a fan, who thought that she was unnecessarily attacking the social media, Bose said, “I never condemned social media. We are talking about mental development here. It is pertinent to grasp the essence of the write-up. Back then, ladies read romance novels and in the process, their written and spoken English got better. Nowadays, they speak with fake accents and cannot spell words in English.
The comedienne known for her biting humour also bemoaned the fact that many university undergraduates she met could not tell the difference between ‘there’ and ‘their’ or ‘these’ and ‘those’. The situation contrasted with the past, she argued, when young people read romance novels in which the history of events and monuments, such as the first and second world wars, the statue of liberty, the Nazi dominance of Europe and what they stood for.
One of Bose’s followers on Instagram, Alajokeade, blamed the situation on parents, saying, “We parents are the cause. How can a parent buy an Internet phone for a child of 10 years? It is uncalled for.”
Another fan, Football fun tv, also blamed some blogs for feeding children with unhealthy information. He wrote, “Kids of today emulate and aspire to be what they see in the media. Imagine what will happen if a blogger reports that she just finished reading this novel and it was so interesting. Those with the means to speak and be heard have a huge role to play.”
Nowadays more Nigerian entertainers appear to be taking to the social media to express their views on critical issues affecting the society. With this write-up on Instagram, Bose has joined the likes of celebrated stand-up comedian, Ali Baba, and Basketmouth who seem to have taken up additional roles as social critics and commentators.
This is the shocking moment a disabled man in a wheelchair was shot dead in the street by Delaware police.Officers had been responding to a 911 call that someone had attempted to shoot themselves, when they arrived to find Jeremy McDole ‘still armed with a handgun.’
Cops opened fire on McDole, who was paralyzed from the waist down after being shot by a friend aged 18, after repeated requests for him to ‘drop the gun.’
McDole’s mother, Phyllis, has criticized the shooting as ‘unjust’ during a police news conference.
The incident, which took place in a Wilmington street, Delaware on Wednesday afternoon was caught on camera by stunned witnesses who uploaded it to You Tube.
The 1-minute-and-19-second-long clip opened with an officer, armed with a shotgun, shouting for the wheelchair-bound McDole to ‘show his hands.’
A shot is fired just seconds later, before more cops move in shouting at the 28-year-old: ‘Show me your hands! Drop the gun! Drop the gun!’
McDole appeared to be bleeding although the footage does not make clear if this was from the officer’s first shot or if he had been previously injured in the alleged suicide attempt. His handgun is not easily identifiable in the video.
He is then seen putting his hands into his pockets at which point he in gunned down in a flurry of bullets with around ten shots fired.
McDole slumps over and falls to ground, dead. Cops said a .38-caliber handgun was recovered at the scene.
Police Chief Bobby Cummings said during a news conference that none of the officers involved ‘intended to take anyone’s life that day.’
He said that police had told him repeatedly to put his gun down but had ‘engaged him’ after he went to remove the weapon from his waist.
But Mrs McDole disputed the cops’ version of events and interrupted the conference to demand answers.
‘He was in a wheelchair, paralyzed from the waist down. There’s video showing that he didn’t pull a weapon, she said.
McDole’s sister Letesha Green also criticized the cops for not attempting to use non-lethal force before opening fire.
‘Why couldn’t you taser this man out of his wheelchair,’ she asked, reported NBC Philadelphia. ‘Why couldn’t you use rubber bullets to get him out of the wheelchair?’
However, Cummings said he had also viewed the video and believed the four officers involved – who have all been placed on administrative duty – acted correctly.
‘The officers perceived what was a threat and they responded and they engaged,’ he said, adding that only a ‘thorough investigation’ would reveal if they should have taken a different course of action.
Wilmington Police Department’s criminal investigation and professional standards unit is now investigating the incident as is the Delaware Department of Justice’s Office of Civil Rights and Public Trust which investigates all police fatal shootings.
The findings will determine whether the officers involved are to be charged.
Witnesses claim that McDole may have been trying to kill himself.
‘He pulled out his gun. He was trying to shoot himself up there,’ Sean Owens, who was at the scene, told NBC Philadelphia. ‘I think he may have shot himself once or twice, but he shot the other shots in the air.’
But a local bishop who has counselled McDole in the past said he had not shown any signs of being depressed or suicidal.
While McDole’s uncle, Eugene Smith, said he had seen his nephew, who is black, 15 minutes before the shooting and had not noticed a gun.
‘He had a book bag, but I never seen a gun,’ he said. ‘It was an execution. That’s what it was. I don’t care if he was black, white, whatever.’
National Association for the Advancement of Colored People have now called for a special prosecutor to look into the shooting as not to have ‘cops investigating cops.’
Late Thursday, about 100 people gathered outside of Phyllis McDole’s home for a candlelight vigil and expressed their frustrations about the shooting.
Williams and Delaware Gov. Jack Markell stopped by and expressed their condolences.
Flowers and tributes have since been left at the scene.
McDole’s uncle said that his disabled nephew had gotten out of jail last year and had been living in a nursing home.
In November, the 28-year-old, who had a lengthy criminal record going back to 2005which included drug possesion adn disorderly conduct, had violated his parole
He had been paralyzed from the waist down when he was just a teenager in 2005 after being shot in the back by a friend with whom he had been smoking marijuana with, according to court documents.
McDole initially told police that his friend Randal Matoo shot him, but later testified that he didn’t know who shot him.
However, Mattoo was convicted of first-degree assault and possession of a firearm during a felony.
The judge at the trial said both McDole and Mattoo had paid a terrible price for the shooting.
‘There’s a horrible penalty that both of you, the victim, Mr. McDole, and you the defendant, Mr. Matoo, are going to pay for whatever was behind this.’
Mayor Dennis Williams announced earlier this year that officers would have body cameras by the end of 2015.
A culture of rape and sexual abuse is being allowed to take hold in asylum centres across Germany as Europe struggles to cope with the migrant crisis, it has been alleged,
Women’s rights groups and politicians have highlighted assaults against women and children in at least one camp.
And they suggest such incidents may be widespread, with many going unreported to the police.
Campaigners also claimed some men saw unaccompanied women as ‘fair game’, and also blamed conditions in which occupants were unsegregated by gender or nationality.
he warnings came after German Chancellor Angela Merkel earlier this month announced there was ‘no limit’ to the numbers of migrants her country would take.
Germany is expected to receive up to one million migrants this year and has since imposed temporary border controls.
But some cities have been struggling to cope with the influx, reporting intolerable pressures on housing and too few staff to process asylum claims.
And other EU countries have accused Germany of encouraging the crisis – then trying to resettle migrants in other EU countries under a quota system.
In the case highlighted yesterday, around 5,000 asylum seekers have been crammed into old US military bases in Giessen, western Germany. A letter addressed to the Minister of Integration and Social Affairs in the state of Hesse, where the centre is based, from four women’s organisations described a ‘culture of rape and violence’.
The letter, written on August 18, stated: ‘It is a fact that women and children are unprotected. This situation is opportune to those men who already regard women as their inferior and treat unaccompanied women as “fair game”. As a consequence, there are reports of numerous rapes, sexual assaults and increasingly of forced prostitution. These are not isolated incidents.’
Women were often too afraid to walk around the camp even during the day, volunteers claimed, while some victims are too terrified to report sexual assaults by the men.
A police spokesman said there were ‘probably’ many unreported sexual abuses. Giessen City Councillor Astrid Eibelshaeuser said: ‘We know there is rape happening.’
Johannes-Wilhelm Roerig, the federal commissioner for child sexual abuse issues, said: ‘I am most concerned that refugee children in camps, gymnasiums, or former barracks are not sufficiently protected from sexual assault.’
Campaign group Women For Refugee Women said the solution was to integrate genuine refugees as quickly as possible into society to remove them from the risks of overcrowded conditions. Its director Natasha Walter said: ‘People should not be in detention centres, they should be in the community where they can avail themselves of the normal protections given to citizens by the authorities.’
Hungary has started to roll out barbed wire along its border with Slovenia to keep refugees out.
This is the first such known measure to take place between countries belonging to the Schengen zone.
It has already set up barriers along its frontiers with Serbia and Croatia.
Dakore is married but certainly not sitting down in one place, with numerous projects up her sleeves, a new movie on the road, it is clear why she is the cover girl for this weeks Vanguard Allure.
She talks about what she has been up to, the new movie Fifty and things still coming in the pipeline.
